Techniques to ease your worry
"Our life is what our thoughts make it",Marcus Aurelius summed in eight words.
Norman Vincent Peale shared a deep truth when he said." You are not what you think you are; but what you think, you are."
Life is too short to be little.
Often we allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Here we are on this earth, with only a few decades to live, and we lose many irreplaceable hours brooding over grievances that, in a year's time, will be forgotten by us and everybody. Now let us devote our life to worth-while actions and feelings, to great thoughts, real affections and enduring undertakings. For life is too short to be little.
First technique to deal with worry is the magic formula of Welis H. Carrier
a) Ask yourself what is the worst thing that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?
b) Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst - if necessary. Accepting the worst allows your mind to think clearly.
c) Calmly try to improve upon the worst. Now if anything you do or happens better than the worst, you are happy because you had already made peace with the worst.
Second Technique : Analyse your worry. Write it down.
a) What am I worrying about?
b) What can I do about it?
c) Here is what I am going to do about it.
d) Carry out that decision.
Some successful tips to break worry habit:
1. Keep busy. The worried person must lose himself in action, lest he wither in despair.
2. "Let's examine the record." Lets ask ourselves: "What are the chances according to the law of averages that this event I am worrying about will ever occur?"
3. Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself : " It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
4. Put a stop-loss order on your worries. Decide just how much a thing may be worth and refuse to give it anymore.
5. Don't ever saw the sawdust. Let the past bury its head.
6. When the burden of troubles increase, start counting your blessings. Note down things you are grateful for.
I want you to think of your life as an hourglass. You know there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass and they all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck in the middle. Nothing you or I could do would make more than one grain of sand pass through the neck without impairing it.
You, I and everyone else are like this hourglass. We must take our tasks one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly to avoid breaking our own mental or physical structure.
Some words that have inspired men to deal with worry:
"Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, until nightfall. Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means." ~ Robert Louis Stevenson
Everyday is a new life to a wise man.
"The cost of a thing is the amount of what I call life, which is required to be exchanged for it immediately or in the long run."
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference."
"The Moving Finger writes; and having writ,
Moves on: nor all your piety nor wit,
shall lure it back to cancel half a line,
Nor all your tears wash out a word of it."
William James made an observation:
"Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not."
In other words, William James tells us that we cannot instantly change our emotions just by 'making up our minds to' - but that we can change our actions. And that when we change our actions, we will automatically change our feelings.
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