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 I am a middle-class graduate whose college was about doing something for sustenance. I have a boring life. I haven't travelled. I don't take risks. I don't have many experiences. I live a comfortable standard life with practical decisions that should ensure food on my plate few years down the line.  But I dream all the time (with eyes open and closed ). And how do I live it?  By reading fiction. Through these fiction stories, I have lived many lives. I have felt the rush of a banker whose millions were at a stake on a timely decision. I have felt the adrenaline of a detective who had to fake-date a serial killer.I have loved a man on a wheelchair and mourned his death. I have seen a one-legged cancer virgin boy through the eyes of a cancer girl. I have craved the warmth of a touch being a CFer. I have been in a toxic relationship and learned to learn myself. I have loved a boy who lost his mom to cancer and got abandoned by his father at 13. I have been a prisoner waitin...

Toast to the ones here today Toast to the the ones that we lost on the way Death Die These words have flowed out of my mouth easily in past. Now? I hesitate. I have believed that the worst part about dying is not being remembered by the ones you loved. Now I wonder, lesser the casualties, the better, isn't it? I blame Hazel Grace Lancaster for putting these thoughts in my mind. Wouldn't I want less people to be hurt by my soul leaving the body? Wouldn't I want my loved ones to be happy after me? Would I want them to be crying after me? So I guess the question is can you think of them without hurting yourself and other survivors. Strictly speaking, I want less people to be hurt over me after me. But I believe the worst thing I can do to my not-alive-loved-one would be to not think of him and forget him. So I say there are ways of thinking of them and missing them without hurt and you must do that.  I have known for a long time that funerals are for the living. Now I understa...

 You know why you should read books , a lot of them? When you have read a lot of books, you somehow stumble upon the book you need at the time. You stumble upon the right excerpt from a book at the right time. You somehow read the thing that you didn't know you needed but that helps you or you just recollect something you had read long back in a book that helps you now. I am going through a traumatic experience and I just start shuffling my books in the rack, and smell books randomly and at the start of a book, I noticed I had scribbled a page number so I flip to that page and find that it is a ' Letter to the Thinking Brain' talking about the Feeling brain. As I kept reading, I realized that it was what I needed to hear. I started feeling better and I understood what I needed to do next, I found few ways to cope.  So guys, read! You can't imagine how that helps. Things you read in a book pop up when you need them and if you have read a lot, you learn to identify those ...